Blessed Are The Problem Solvers

Nothing wears me out faster than someone who constantly talks about a problem and then finds flaws with every option presented to fix said problem.  I have no patience for this- at all.  So often, we can find ourselves doing this to our spouse.  We voice a problem and then shoot down every idea or solution presented by the other side.

Eventually this evolves into an adversarial type of relationship and this will spell doom for a marriage.  Perhaps the couple does stay together until death do us part, but there is a lot more to a healthy marriage than just living under the same roof.

If we are to live together in peace- we must choose peace.

We must choose to be problem solvers.

Solving problems brings peace.

Instead of looking at your husband as someone to be conquered, bested, and put in his place- you need to look at him as your ally in this game of life.  Life brings many battles and many challenges- we need an ally.  This doesn’t happen over-night, but if you will choose to see your spouse as your ally and choose the path of peace instead of quarreling and bickering- your home will be a much happier place.


Mathew 5:9

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they should be called the sons of God.


eirénopoios: peacemaking, a peacemaker

Original Word: εἰρηνοποιός, όν
Part of Speech: Adjective
Transliteration: eirénopoios
Phonetic Spelling: (i-ray-nop-oy-os’)
Short Definition: pacific, loving peace, a peace-maker
Definition: pacific, loving peace, a peace-maker.


So, when a problem presents itself- don’t choose sides.  Choose to work with your spouse and find a solution that is good for all involved.  Then you will be peace makers and others looking on will know there is a God when they see peace reigning in your home.



Which One Will You Be?

roses and herbsProverbs 14:1

The wise woman builds her house,

    but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.


This has been a scripture that has been woven into my mind for many years.  I’ll admit that in the beginning of my marriage I was very foolish.  I talked before I thought, I got angry too fast and I held on to things that were not worth my time.  Then I discovered the truth-

The difference between a wise woman and a foolish woman is that the wise woman knows what to hold on to and what to let go of.