As I was standing in line at the grocery store the other day, Time magazine caught my eye. An attractive woman was on the cover with the line “Don’t hate her because she is successful” and under it was her name and claim that she had “a mission to reboot Feminism” I guess being the top dog at Facebook gives her that authority.
I am struggling to order my thoughts as I am writing even though I have written this blog in my head a hundred times. The problem I am having is that this cover stirs up so much in me I can’t decide which dog to turn lose first. So I think I will just start with the first thought that popped into my head. Those of you who know me might have just cringed.
Thought # 1– Why does feminism need a reboot? It seems to being going strong, every day I see angry women raging on the news with their tight lips, unhappy eyes, and scowling faces telling me that I would be happier if I put myself first and through off the out of date ideas that children need a mother and that I need a husband. (Which I do need him, he is my rock and I am not ashamed to admit that I am happily dependent on him). I really can’t understand why they think that smart, intelligent women who are happy with their lives of raising their babies, have happy marriages, and are content to be busy making a home would want to trade that kind of contentment for raging, angry tirades. This particular woman was thought to be a shinning example because she is running facebook, really- what eternal value does facebook have? I’ll take Mother Teresa any day.
Maybe it is not a reboot that feminism needs it is a revamp- to embrace those traits that are truly feminine.
Thought #2– Where do they get the term “feminism” anyway? I mean really- to be considered feminine is have certain traits about you. To be soft ( not weak, picture a fist of steel wrapped in velvet and satin) and kind, to be smart, and attractive (not just in looks, but in your demeanor, people want to be around you), to be dignified and refined, to be fierce- like a mamma bear when her cubs are threatened. All of these traits I see in Godly women I would like to emulate, not in the forerunners of this movement who demand this and that, who are angry and fierce- the scary kind of fierce that won’t tolerate anyone who thinks differently than they do. These women who demand the right to kill their unborn children because they have a “Choice”- yes, you do have a choice to wait until you are married to have sex, simple as that- are not examples of what I want to be as a woman.
These women are not feminine- they are the very opposite of what we females were designed to be.
Thought #3– What exactly is their problem and why do they think feminism needs a reboot? I think many of their issues rest in the fact that women still make up a small percentage of the “high up” positions in the work force. Have they ever stopped to consider that maybe the numbers are what they are not because women “can’t get the jobs because they are female” but because women as a whole will not sacrifice their families for their career. This thought will greatly chap the hides of a lot of the “feminist” movers and shakers but it seems to me that there are too many women who have achieved their goals of getting to the top for it to be an impossibility.
“”Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.” John 15:13
Matthew 16:25 For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.
Mark 8:35 For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me and for the gospel will save it.
The Bible is full of references to sacrifice, dying to your own desires and then finding fulfillment on the other side.
Thought #4– Who is the most powerful woman in America? or the World? It is that woman who lays down her life to nurture, raise, and guide the next generation.
Society is a fabric- each thread woven together is a human life, each human thread is spun at home. When society has the awful problems with school shootings, teen pregnancy, greed, abuse and violence the problem is not with society in itself, but a breakdown in the home. So the women that are choosing to put the next generation first whether that be by staying at home full time to be a wife and a mother or being that teacher that gives of herself above and beyond against the odds, or the working mother who turns down a promotion so that she won’t have to sacrifice her time with her children, or in any other facet where she finds the ability to make a difference- these are the most powerful women in America and the World.
I do not reject the idea that women are capable of great things outside the home, that they have the abilities to work at the highest levels or even that some women are called to do so. I reject the idea that if I choose to lay down my own pursuits to put my husband and children first in my priority list that I have some how fallen short of what I was designed to be as a woman. It takes a very strong woman to be secure in herself, to take on the challenges of building a healthy marriage and raising the next generation and to stand against the current that is telling her to abandon her post, and to trust her God to take care of all the things that she cannot control- that is femininity at it’s highest.
I know I sound a bit angry in this post, but that would be because this issue does make me angry. The home has been in large part abandoned and children are left to parent themselves with the help of “Jersey Shore” and “16 and Pregnant” while both parents pursue their own lives and we then wonder why there is a breakdown in society. The home is worth fighting for and I am tired of listening to those that are wrong say they are right. Instead of looking at it as an unfair yoke, being the gender that was trusted with bringing forth the next generation and having the fate of society & the world rest in your hands should be revered as the highest honor on the planet.